Elevator Etiquette

In any large city with high rise buildings, you are bound to use elevators frequently. Some of them are the size of dumb waiters and can uncomfortably squeeze in two, while others are the size of cattle corrals and can hold twenty people.

I haven't been in a high rise city for very long, but I have come to a few conclusions about what constitute polite behaviour in the elevating area.

Talking: Take this on a case-by-case basis. I'm pretty shy, so my modus operandi is not to engage strangers at work - or even in my building - in conversation. It is acceptable to talk in the elevator to a friend in the elevator, if you do so quietly.

Other people's dogs or babies makes things easier. You can comment on how cute their child is, or ask to pet their dog. What could be an awkward 45-second ride has suddenly turned into painless pandering that's over before it's done!

Looking at people: It's kind of awkward. There are usually mirrors, so look at yourself, or if you're into taking risks, check out the hot guy in the elevator next to you. It's always a safe bet to look at the floor numbers.

Oh goodness, this is a recipe for making people boring. Don't do this stuff, don't do any of it. Talk to people in the elevator! Engage them in conversation! It doesn't matter, even if you live in the same building, because you'll either never see them or see them so rarely it won't matter.

Holding the doors: Obviously, hold them if someone is in your direct line of sight, of if they call out to hold the elevator.

It becomes tricky when you keep holding the elevator for someone who is slow, or you jump into the elevator in the nick of time and in turn hold the door for someone else - essentially, you've doubled the waiting time for the other elevatees. Be nice anyway, and ignore any prickly feelings on your neck inspired by their glowers.

Crowded elevators: I haven't mastered this one yet, but squeezing in if there's a small gap is permissible. If there is a moving company stacking things in the elevator, though, it's easier to take the stairs.


Pushing the button: If someone is getting out, don't push the "Close doors" button until they have completely exited from the elevator. Hovering over the button with your thumb as the doors are opening is poor behavior.

Avoiding all of these elevator woes: You can take the stairs! Though, depending on how your wide your stairs are, a whole new set  of etiquette may be required.